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Article by Jack Diven
What up peeps!?!?
I pray all of you are blessed today! Before we begin I would just like to inform you that I am currently sitting in my office on a Friday afternoon (it's Christmas break in the magical land of higher academia) watching... Mulan! Man some things never change, am I right? Mulan is always gonna be a go to movie, no matter how old and mature we get!
(I'm thinking the blu-ray extended version would be a great present for this guy who has a has birthday coming up! Just saying! No Shame... I'm a MAN as mysterious as the dark side of the moon!!!)
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| These men a mysterious to say the least! |
We have a lot of fun here on the NewlyWed News coming to you live from the comfort of our home every other day, I mean our last 2 blogs have been about F***ing.
(NWN Inside joke: Unravel the mystery here)
http://thenewlywednews.blogspot.com/2015/01/great-american-mystery-revealed.html
Every now and then, we sprinkle a little serious sauce on some of our topics and since my wife got to throw it down last time, I figured it was about time that I took a crack at it. Sooooo... you ready!? It's coming fast... hey ho here we go!
Let me state something that many of us seem not to understand...
Tweet: "There is a difference between trying to be someone that you're not and changing yourself for the purpose of improvement."
Contrary to popular belief and many poetic single people who say things like,
"Don't ever change". They say things like "Stop trying to change me" as if they are something so great that it would detrimental to the human existence if they were to change a thing about themselves. Change is actually a natural and necessary part of a serious relationship and is unavoidable.
It is impossible to be with someone on the level of "marriage" or "engaged" or at least trying to be engaged without them affecting your life in drastic ways. So if you wanna get married someday, get ready to change. Whomever you are with, if it is serious at all, is going to change you. And if you are married and you are still seriously trying to focus on your spouse NOT changing you. Grow up, you're in for a long ride, or maybe a short one if you keep that up.
Everyone, change comes with the territory when you are speaking of serious relationships. You can expect it. That is why it is extremely important that you find someone that is not trying to change you, they are trying to change with you, to grow with you, to become better with you.
*Related Christian rant... go*
Christians, many of you think that you are "never supposed to change" that God made you "perfect just the way you are"... how about that part where Jesus says, "be imitators of Me", where Paul says to imitate and follow me as I am imitating Christ.
Think any of that requires change from the person that you are right now?
And just since I'm in an especially rebellious mood right now, Christian women, could it be that your biblical calling and change collide in such a way that you are supposed to be an imitator of your husband that is also being an imitator of Christ?
Do you honestly believe that there is no change that needs to take place there?
As a man that is trying to be an imitator of Christ, I find that I need to be changing just about every second of every day to be more like Christ and not like myself.
*Christian rant... over.*
You will find that in healthy relationships you can be yourself to such great lengths that you will learn about the person that you truly are. In my experience, this is one of the greatest things of marriage and I would imagine that it will remain that way.
You'll find that you can watch your favorite Disney princess movies, you can dance around the house like a deranged naked mad man, and you can indulge and bask in all of your weird NewlyWed quirks because there is a love there that is not dependent on what you do, or what you say, how you look, or any other material thing.
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| Oh yes... quirky! |
I think what I am really trying to say is this,
Tweet: "Be yourself. Be yourself until you know that you are with the person that you are meant to be with for your entire life, then change and grow with them."
Once you have found this person as I have... you will change together, and you will find yourself becoming a better person than you ever could have imagined.
I have loved more than I ever have, been loved more than I ever have been, and I am also more my weird self with Kayla than I ever been with anyone in my entire life. Funny how that works.
Kayla and I have changed immensely since we have gotten married. In a healthy way, both of us have had to make compromises with our personal dreams and desires in order to fulfill a bigger dream, a greater dream... a life with each other.
Well... that was fun. Let's do it again some time. I pray this finds you well!
Blessings,
-JD writer for the NewlyWed News blog
Oh and by the way, I have now moved from watching Mulan to Fox and the Hound, a movie that I was always scared of when I was a little kid. I suppose now that I am an adult I am grown up enough to watch it!!! What do ya think!?
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